Child Behavior Problems happens to all children not always to behave well. This is always painful for us parents as we would all want to be the perfect parents of wise children! There are some reasons for a child’s misbehavior and several ways that you, as parents, can use to help them improve their behavior.
What are difficult behaviors?
Difficult behaviors include:
- The use of bad language
- Aggressive or violent behavior
- Property damage
- The lie
- The flight
- The refusal to cooperate in the essential tasks, such as dressing in the morning, early going to bed at night or doing homework at night.
Intentional and unintentional misconduct
Children may have accidental or intentional misconduct. It is important to distinguish between the two.
Accidental Misconduct – In a friendly snowball battle, your eight-year-old child hurts another because a stone accidentally fell in the snowball.
Intentional Misconduct – Your child steals a snack from the local convenience store following your refusal to give him his pocket money two days in advance.
Why do children behave badly?
The causes of misconduct can be very obvious or hidden or underlying. Here are some possible reasons:
- Impulsivity and inexperience: Often misbehavior is the result of a child’s lack of prudence or common sense. For example, the eight years old child who threw the snowball was excited and had fun (impulsivity). He is still too young to realize that even the most innocent actions may be dangerous when they are carried out with carelessness (inexperience).
- The revolt against the rules: No one likes to tell is what to do, including children. However, they are continually told what to do and how to do it! It is therefore not surprising that they behave badly because of a feeling of rancor or angry.Example, your three years old can hit a fellow boy because of your insistence to ask her to share her toys. In the same way, your baby can shout, swear and slam doors after being asked repeatedly to put away his room.
- A feeling of resentment and anger due to unfair treatment: We sometimes shed our own anger and frustration on our children. We shout after them because they are noisy, while the real reason for our anger stems from an event that happens to work. We have all the opportunity to act in this way. However, if it becomes a habit, our children will eventually react by showing resentment and anger.
- Frustration caused by too much pressure: we sometimes push our children to achieve goals too big, too quickly. If a child is always forced to do things, such as standing on skates before he or she is physically ready to do so or participating in games that are too difficult for his or her age, the child may eventually refuse to learn new things at home or apply less at school.
- Fears: Real or Imaginary: If your child suddenly refuses to do things that he or she used to do, it may be due to a real or imagined fear. For example, your child may suddenly refuse to board the school bus because he or she has been frightened by a child who is taller and hostile and now takes the same (real) bus, or may refuse to go to bed because “A Tyrannosaurus is hidden in his wardrobe!” (Imaginary).
What can you do to change a difficult behavior?
Among the most important things you can do is being patient, avoiding losing one’s self-control and remembering that love always gives better results than punishment. Think before you act. Ask yourself questions. Then move to the action as calmly and with as much benevolence as possible.
Does my child know that he is loved? Make sure your child knows you like it. To say it often to children does not hurt them. Love attracts love. It is much more difficult for a person, regardless of age, to behave in a way that will hurt someone he loves.
Is it necessary for my child to do this, or is it correct that he can make choices? Obviously, in some situations, it is impossible to give a choice to your children. Hazardous, destructive, dishonest or gross behavior must be corrected and children